ADHD Couples Counseling in Troy, MI
Different brains.
A stronger us.
You can love each other deeply and still feel worn down by the same conversations, missed connections, and unfinished plans.
ADHD can be part of that story. Together, we’ll look beneath the conflict and build ways to communicate, share the load, and reconnect that work for both of you.
In person in Troy · Virtual counseling throughout Michigan
For couples when one or both partners have ADHD
Does this sound familiar?
The same fight.
A deeper disconnect.
When a small conversation becomes a big fight
You explain what you meant. Your partner explains what they heard. Before long, you’re arguing about the argument—and neither of you feels understood.
When follow-through starts to feel personal
A missed task or forgotten plan can land as “I don’t matter.” Repeated reminders can land as “Nothing I do is enough.” Both experiences deserve attention.
When emotions move faster than words
Overwhelm, defensiveness, or shutting down can make it hard to stay connected. We can work on noticing those moments and finding a way back into the conversation.
When you feel more like a manager than a partner
One person may carry the reminders while the other feels watched or criticized. We’ll look at the cycle and build ways to share responsibility more clearly.
There is room here for both of your experiences.
Understanding and accountability
ADHD may explain the pattern.
It doesn’t erase the impact.
A forgotten conversation can feel like disinterest. A reminder can feel like criticism. Over time, the meaning you attach to those moments can hurt as much as the moments themselves.
We’ll get curious about what is happening, name the impact honestly, and work on what needs to change. Understanding ADHD can help you choose more useful supports while keeping responsibility and care in the conversation.
The goal is a partnership where both of you can feel heard, contribute meaningfully, and trust the agreements you make together.
Gottman-informed · ADHD-informed · Relationship-focused
Real tools for the life you share.
We’ll identify the patterns underneath the conflict and practice skills you can use beyond the therapy room. Your goals help shape where we begin.
Communication & repair
Practice saying what you need, checking what your partner heard, and returning to a hard conversation after it goes off track. Make room for listening without losing your own voice.
Emotional regulation
Notice overwhelm and escalation earlier. Develop ways to pause, settle, and return to the conversation so a break becomes a bridge back to each other.
Executive functioning
Explore how attention, working memory, time, and getting started may affect daily life. Try practical supports that fit your needs rather than relying on “just try harder.”
Shared responsibility
Make the invisible work visible. Clarify who owns a task, what completion means, and how you’ll check in—without one person having to hold the entire system together.
Connection & intimacy
Make room for friendship, affection, and honest conversations about closeness. Explore how stress, resentment, attention, and different needs may be affecting connection.
Your strengths, too
Get to know what each of you brings to the relationship: humor, creativity, care, energy, steadiness, or something entirely your own. Your relationship is more than its hardest moments.
What working together can look like
Understand the cycle. Practice a new response.
1. Make room for both stories
We’ll talk about what brings you in, what each of you experiences, and what you hope will feel different in your relationship.
2. Get specific about the pattern
We’ll look at the moments where you get stuck and explore the roles of attention, stress, expectations, and communication.
3. Build something you can use
Practice a conversation, try a shared system, or make a clearer agreement. Then we’ll talk about what helped and what needs adjusting.
Meet your counselor
Hi, I’m Kelley Yell.
I’m a licensed professional counselor with training in the Gottman Method and ADHD-informed care. My style is warm, honest, and practical—with room for humor and the reality of everyday life. I want both of you to feel understood as we work toward meaningful change.
Faith can be included if you both want it. Your beliefs and preferences are welcome in the conversation.
A few things you may be wondering
Questions about ADHD & your relationship.
Do both partners need to have ADHD?
No. I work with couples when one partner has ADHD, both partners have ADHD, or ADHD is suspected and you want help understanding how differences may be affecting your relationship. You don’t need to arrive with identical experiences or perspectives.
Does understanding ADHD mean excusing hurtful behavior?
No. Understanding why something happens and taking responsibility for its impact belong together. We can acknowledge the strain on both partners while working toward clearer agreements, practical support, and changes in behavior.
What if my partner doesn’t understand ADHD?
You don’t have to arrive with a shared understanding. Part of our work can be finding language for your experiences, looking at the patterns between you, and talking about what each of you needs without turning the conversation into a debate about who is the problem.
Do you use the Gottman Method?
I draw on Gottman Method principles for communication, conflict, friendship, and repair alongside ADHD-informed support. Tools can be adapted to your attention, energy, and routines. My training includes Gottman Level 2 and additional training in addictions and affairs.
Is virtual ADHD couples counseling available?
Yes. I offer in-person counseling in Troy, Michigan, and virtual counseling for clients located in Michigan. We can discuss which option fits your circumstances when you reach out.
How do we get started, and where can we find fees?
Complete the couples contact form and share a little about what brings you here. You can also view the couples counseling investment page. We’ll discuss fit and next steps before scheduling.
Your next step
You don’t have to keep having the same fight.
Tell me a little about what’s been happening between you and what you hope could change. We’ll talk about whether working together feels like a fit.
Guided Solutions Relationship Center · Troy, Michigan
In-person and virtual appointments in Michigan